Posts by tall penguin

Awww...that's really too bad. I'm a huge Meatwad fan. I love ATHF. I'll probably go see it though. Can't be any more disappointing than Spider Man 3.

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The chronicles of Narnia and Harry Potter

by uuus2b1 in

last year, i bought a few movies for my 16 year old niece when i went on vacation, among them was the movie "the chronicles of narnia (the lion, the witch and the wardrobe).

a few days later my brother called and said that he would like if i came by to pick up the movie as they would not allow their daughter to watch that movie.

(my brother is an elder) when i went to his house the movie was left virtually the same place that i had left it.

I knew an elder who wouldn't allow his daughter to watch Disney's "The Little Mermaid". I figured it was because of the witch character. No, it was because the little mermaid didn't obey her father!!!

tall penguin

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What Do You Do To Show You Love Your Significant Other?

by minimus in

jw
friends

what do you want from your husband/wife or bf/gf??

.

what do you give?.

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Daystar: "I support her 100% in her path. I advise her when she asks for it and when I do, I don't just try to make her feel good, but tell her truth, even when it may be painful at times.

I respect her opinion even when I don't agree, perhaps even moreso when I don't.

I give her "the look" often. Not necessarily the one that says "meet me in the bedroom", but the one that says she is the most amazing, beautiful woman alive to me.

She knows that while I can survive well on my own, her presense makes everything much more sweet, much more alive. I tell her this and I show her this.

And I show her probably most effectively simply by really, really seeing her, by noticing the very small things about her along with the big things, and loving them."

I just had to quote this whole passage because it's one of the most beautiful expressions of love I've read. Thank you Daystar for reminding me what unconditional love looks like.

tall penguin

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CANCER - AND THE DANGERS OF ALTERNATIVE MEDICINE!

by Dansk in

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friends

dear all,.

i've thought long and hard before writing this - which came about after linda (fullofdoubtnow), who is suffering from pancreatic cancer, was recommended alternative treatments to mainstream medicine.

i believe i am in a strong position to know just how effective many (most/all?

tall penguin

Thank you Dansk for bringing your experience to the discussion.

I've been an alt med proponent for many years. I even worked at an alt med clinic with Naturopaths and Homeopaths. I've done just about every alt med treatment out there over the years for my health issues. When I left the org and began questioning my religious beliefs, my beliefs around health also came up for consideration. The more I learned about science, evolution, medicine and biology I realized that much of alt med is wishful thinking, not unlike being a jw.

I am now quite skeptical of alt med, as I am of most things. I think your post reminds us all to not only investigate treatments before choosing them, but also to check our premises. What are we using as our basis for decision-making?

tall penguin

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I'm Attending the Memorial

by RichieRich in

jw
friends

my lovely girlfriend and i sat down over a homecooked meal, and discussed the pros and cons of attending the memorial.. i decided, with her support, that we would attend.. i spent years of my life pretending to be a witness to please my mother.

when i left the witnesses, my mother said some hurtful things.. and those things really hurt me... for a while.

but i established myself as my own person, developed my own relationships, and have gotten a good start on my own life.. i don't know that i want to hurt my mother back, but i do want to make it abundantly clear to her, my grandmother, and all the members of my former congregation, that richierich is alive and kicking.. and i think that walking into the kingdom hall, dressed respectfully in a suit, yet with full piercing jewelry intact, and with erika wearing something classy that steals the brother's eyes, and draws glares from the humble sisters, will be just the thing to send that message to my mother.. i don't plan on partaking or making a disturbance.

tall penguin

"It's something I want to do."

Then go for it. I think it's useful sometimes to go back to the past and see how it feels. To revisit situations with new eyes. Shows us how far we've come.

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Even Worse - I am really starting to hate this religion

by unique1 in

i first want to thank you all for your support over the past few days.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/131534/1.ashx.

i did finally get a reply from my dad (after a week and a half) and i almost wish i hadn't.

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"Daughter, We are doing fine. Glad to know ya'll are doing well. Your mom and I can talk to Husband ,since he hasn't disassociated himself (because the elders didn't harass him constantly and I think they even forgot he got baptized oh yeah plus there was no witch hunt for him. You saw me and him with our DF'd friend and only turned me in. Your only child.), if that is something he would like to do. If it is he can get in touch with me here.

Love you both, Mom and Dad"

Translation:

"We'll talk to your husband cuz he hasn't da'd yet but if he wants to, let us know and we'll be sure to accept his letter and shun him too."

Can't ya just feel the love?!

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Full Circle. . .

by bigwilly in

its odd to me when and where things change for me.

this last friday i went out with friends and a cousin i hadnt seen in over a year.

i also went out in a part of town i hadnt spent time in for years.

tall penguin

Beautiful post bigwilly! It's amazing how we can revisit a place and have it stir up such inspiration and joy in us. Happy for you. I know it's been a long, arduous journey in so many ways. Glad to hear things are shifting in your universe.

Hugs,
tall penguin

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New Job, kids, the truth

by purplesofa in

jw
friends

this is the second week at my new job.

it is very boring.

i feel so sad and depressed for losing the other job.

tall penguin

I read this and didn't know what to say. So I left the thread hoping someone else wiser might come along. No such luck so I guess you'll have to hear the words of this fool who really feels for you but has no wisdom to offer.

(((purps)))

You've got a lot on your plate right now. I can imagine it has taken much torturous thought to come to the decision to move out and live your kids to lead their own way. And I can understand how it feels to long for the community that we had as jw's. As problem-ridden as it was, the illusion of all those "loving" people was comforting wasn't it? I have my moments where I wish I could jump back in the bubble and pretend. As I'm sure you do, I realize that it would only be a quick fix and our freed minds would never again be able to be shackled.

Know that there are many people here who care for you and have become your community. I know it's not quite the same as being around people in person, but at least here, it is consistent and unconditional.

Take care and let us know how you're doing.

tall penguin

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moving away

by endlosung in

i am new here so hi to all.. i was raised in the cult, i call it a cult because it fits.. i am selling my home and moving away because they keep coming to my home to try to get me to say i do not agree with the society, by doing this they will have all they need to df me.. my wife wants me to just send a letter of disassociation, i see her point but i do not want them to be able to say what they want to so bad, [we had a bad person in our midst and we took action to get rid of him].

i would rather be left in good standing and keep the thorn in their side.. my wife and my self have not gone to meetings for 10 years now.

both our families are witnesses,and they do not have anything to do with us for the most part, her mother and father will talk to her if she comes around but it all has to be on their terms.

tall penguin

Welcome endlosung!

"How fast old wounds can be brought back to the surface."

Hugs to you. Leaving the jws is like leaving Hotel California, "You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave." No matter where you go, there are things that will trigger up those old wounds.

Having said that, it sounds like this move will be a good thing for you and your wife. There's something freeing about moving to a new place and having the opportunity to start over.

As for the elders who are hounding you, ignore them. Or threaten legal action if they keep harassing you. As I understand it, if you've been gone for 10 years, they technically can't disfellowship you in absentia, unless you establish contact with them again. Of course, each congo plays by its own rules, so nothing is guaranteed.

Wishing you all the best and I look forward to seeing more posts by you.

tall penguin